Living With Anxiety: When Enough Is Enough
Anxiety shows up in different ways for different people.
For some, it begins the moment they open their eyes in the morning—a sudden wave of fear or dread. Your heart races, your palms sweat, and there’s no obvious reason why. It just is. As you move through the morning, the anxiety lingers like a weight on your shoulder. It might settle as a tight knot in your stomach. You may have become good at pushing the feelings down and getting on with your day, even though deep down, you know it’s still there.
For others, anxiety can be more subtle. On the outside, you seem to function perfectly well—holding conversations, going to work, taking care of responsibilities. But inside, you feel nervous, uneasy, or disconnected. You struggle to relax, and life feels like it’s passing you by. At night, anxiety might keep you from falling asleep. Or worse, it wakes you in the early hours, when everything is still—except your thoughts.
Some experience anxiety that hits suddenly, out of nowhere. Your heart pounds, your hands sweat, you feel dizzy or faint. Even if the place you’re in doesn’t scare you, something inside you says you need to get out—now.
When Is It Too Much?
We all experience anxiety from time to time. A job interview, a dentist appointment, or public speaking can make anyone feel nervous. But when anxiety becomes constant, disrupting your daily life, it turns into something much more serious.
You may find yourself dreading future events or feeling safest only at home. Anxiety starts to dictate your choices—and eventually, your world shrinks.
The truth is: it doesn’t have to be this way.
Anxiety doesn’t have to control your life. You can learn to manage it—and even stop it before it starts.
The Vicious Cycle of Worry
There are countless triggers for anxiety—public transport, job interviews, social situations—but they all lead to the same overwhelming physical and emotional reaction.
You might try to understand what’s happening logically, only to realise your unconscious mind isn’t listening. That’s when the panic worsens. You start worrying about the worry, and the cycle continues.
Often, well-meaning friends or family try to help by saying things like:
“There’s nothing to worry about.”
And you think, “I know that!”—but knowing it doesn’t stop the fear.
In fact, the more you try to fight the anxiety, the more out of control you feel, and the stronger it gets.
So, How Do We Break the Cycle?
Yes, there are tools and techniques that can help once anxiety kicks in. But for lasting change, doesn’t it make more sense to stop the anxiety from starting at all?
✅ Hypnoanalysis
With Hypnoanalysis, we work to find the root cause of your anxious responses—often something hidden in the unconscious mind—and remove it completely.
If the trigger no longer exists, the anxiety doesn’t need to show up.
✅ BWRT® (BrainWorking Recursive Therapy)
BWRT is a powerful method that allows us to reprogram your brain’s response to specific triggers.
For example, if your usual reaction to public speaking is intense anxiety, we can change that reaction to something much more manageable—like feeling as calm as you would sitting on your sofa watching TV. Once the response is changed at the source, the old fear no longer appears when the trigger is present.
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You don’t have to live in fear of your anxiety anymore.
Let’s find what works for you—together.
Anxiety rears its ugly head in different ways for different people. It may be that when you wake in the morning you feel a feeling of fear or anxiety consume you. You become aware that you are sweating and your pulse is increasing. Nothing appears to have set it off, its just there happening for what appears to be no reason. As you make your way through the morning the anxiety just sits on your shoulder being present in everything you do. It may now be appearing as knot in your stomach. You may now be quite good at pushing down the feelings and getting on the best you can even though you know, deep down it is still inside.
Alternatively your anxiety maybe less intrusive, from the outside you perform perfectly normally, get on with life. But you don’t feel happy with life. A lot of the time you feel panicky and nervous and you struggle to relax. Life is passing you by and you don’t feel like any activity is enjoyable as this feeling is constantly there. This disabling anxiety is always present, at night it stops you from dropping off to sleep. If you wake in the middle off the night it kicks in once again, preventing you from falling back asleep. In the middle off the night when everything is still but you, you find yourself panicking.
Or your anxiety may just appear out of nowhere for no obvious reason. Your heart starts racing, your palms start to sweat and you begin to shake. You start to feel a little faint. Although where you are doesn’t frighten you, all you know is that you have to get out of the situation you are in.
When enough is enough.
Anxiety is something that we all experience at varying levels at certain times in our lives. For some it may just appear when they are going to the dentists or giving a speech in public. However for many others, it is a crippling condition that affects going about your daily life. We may find ourselves anxious about events coming up. We could end up living as a prisoner to this condition in the comfort of our own home. One thing about anxiety is that it doesn’t have to be this way. Anxiety doesn’t have to own you. You can overcome and remove the anxiety. You can choose when its applicable and required and when its not.
There are many triggers for anxiety. It may be using public transport, or being interviewed for a job, but it all leads to the same unbearable feelings of panic. We then try to understand what is going on, using our logic and reason, to find that our unconscious mind is not listening. We then feel even more anxiety when this method doesn’t work for us and end up in vicious cycle of trying to stop the worry, then worrying when we cannot stop the worry.
Words that fall on deaf ears.
Often those that are around you try to use logic to help you out or your predicament; saying things like ‘there is nothing to fear’ etc. Your response is usually along the lines of ‘I know there is nothing to fear’. But for you that doesn’t help to subside the overwhelming feelings of fear and terror. The more you try to fight away from the anxiety, the worse it becomes and you realise that you don’t have any control over it. This feeling of being out of control, compounds the feeling of anxiety and then we hit a spiral of emotions, all projecting fear.
How do we combat it?
There are many things we can do when the Anxiety kicks in to make life more bearable but for me it just makes sense to not allow the Anxiety to start in the first place.
Using Hypno-analysis we are able to find the reason for your reactions and remove them. It makes perfect sense, if you remove the trigger then the anxiety can’t start in the first place.
Or we have B.W.R.T available which allows us to change the response to a trigger to one that you would prefer. For instance, if you reaction to public speaking is one of anxiety we could change it to what you would prefer it to be like ‘sat on sofa nice and calm watching TV’. When the trigger is turned on the response is now different.
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Tim Grover - Bedfordshire Therapies 